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Ten Signs of Emotional Abuse

Out of all the forms of domestic violence, emotional abuse is the most difficult one to spot. Find out what to look out for.

Out of all the forms of domestic violence, emotional abuse is the most difficult one to spot. The victims usually trade their comfort and emotional stability for their abusing partners’ love. On the other hand, abusers develop an addiction to the sick pleasure that they get from tormenting their loving partners.

Some people live their entire lives without realising that they have been the victims of severe emotional abuse. Here are 10 signs of how mental and emotional mistreatment look like in a relationship, and which you should keep an eye for in your current or next liaison!

1. Your partner isolates you from your loved ones
Abusive partners demand that you spend all of your time with them. They ask for 100% of your attention, and they get angry when you don’t comply. In their bid to control you and your time, they will create barriers between you and your friends or your family. Spending time alone or apart is unthinkable for them.

2. Your partner verbally abuses you
Some abusers use verbal communication as an offensive weapon in a relationship that they otherwise consider to be a loving one.

Such an abusive partner will insult you with derogatory names, disturbing jokes, and even blatant curse words. Whether you respond back or not, they will continue to harass you verbally into submission.

3. Your partner uses emotional manipulation
After verbally mistreating you, abusers may try to manipulate your feelings leading you to feel guilty for their outbursts.

This kind of abusive partner will seek breaches in your emotional armour, and use them to get inside your mind and toy with your feelings. In some cases, they will even threaten you with leaving if you don’t change your behaviour that led to their tantrum.

4. Your partner has an infinite resource of scapegoats
If your new partner always finds someone to blame for their failures or their defects, you might be dating a potentially abusive person.

Someone who cannot take responsibility for their mistakes is not ready for a mature relationship. Moving ahead with an emotionally abusive partner can lead to severe trauma in the future. The kind of person that always finds scapegoats will eventually blame you for their underachievement.

5. Your partner uses addiction to escape emotional responsibility
Some people resort to alcohol or drugs when they cannot admit failure, mistakes, or inappropriate behaviour. An adult that does not resolve past trauma can turn into an abusive partner that uses their addiction to escape emotional responsibility.

6. Your partner uses fear to control you
Some abusers extend control over their partners with the threat of violence. Even if they never physically hurt their lovers, they act as if they are always on the brink of doing it.

This type of reprehensible behaviour instils fear and forces you to live in constant anxiety. Your actions and your entire lifestyle may change to avoid potential retribution.

7. Your partner uses physically constraint
Even if your partner does not hit you, he or she can still use physical force to abuse you. Some evident signs of it include grabbing your wrists tightly, holding an arm over your neck or head in a dominant manner, or cornering you in the room and using their body to block your way out.

These signs of physical constraint point to abusive behaviour that may lead to domestic violence and tragic consequences in the future.

8. Your partner deprives you of affection
Another sign of emotional abuse is when your partner chooses to punish you for spending time away or for not giving them the attention that they demand. In this case, they intentionally deprive you of affection and act upset until you beg for their pardon.

9. Your partner treats you like a servant
This kind of emotional abuse is difficult to acknowledge even by the victims. Abusers develop a sense of entitlement that they use to treat their partners as servants. As a result, they demand constant care, attention, help, and supervision as if they were royalty.

10. Your partner is extremely jealous and possessive
A possessive partner has no consideration for your individuality. Such an abuser will try to gain full control over your life including your dreams, goals, and personal tastes. Their jealousy is limitless, and they will act on it to prevent you from spending time with other people than those of their choosing.

All of these signs of emotional abuse point to an immature individual who is not ready to commit to a serious, long-lasting, and happy relationship. If you encounter them in your partner, you should immediately have a calm and constructive conversation about the risks that they hold for your relationship.

Remember that emotional abuse is never a convenient price to pay for being in a relationship with someone. Seek external support to try to repair or end this kind of relationship with your partner. Professional counsel should help you overcome the trauma that results from being emotionally abused in a toxic relationship!

If you feel like you are experiencing any of these and you are located in the Leicester, Leicestershire or Rutland area please call our helpline today on 0808 802 0028. The helpline is open Monday to Saturday 8am to 8pm and is free from all mobiles, landlines and payphones. It is also hidden on the telephone bill.

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