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Things You Can Do To Help Yourself

If you’ve recognised that your behaviour has caused harm in your relationships, then you have already taken the first step towards change. Here are some things you can do to begin adjusting your behaviour on your journey.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and it’s never too late to change.

Talk to a Mate

A problem shared is a problem halved. Chat to your mates about how you’ve been feeling. You can also connect with support groups specifically designed for people on a similar journey to you. Sharing your experiences and thoughts with others can help you to feel heard and understood, as well as boosting accountability and motivation. We offer group support sessions, as well as one-to-one sessions, as part of our support programmes.

Consider Emotional Management

Learn and practice effective emotional management techniques. Emotional management can help to give you healthier ways of expressing and coping with your emotions without resorting to abusive behaviour. Our specialist support can help you with this.

Do Things You Enjoy

Activities such as exercise, hobbies and socialising can help reduce stress levels, and will bring a more positive mindset. Filling your cup with positive experiences can make it easier to deal with triggers, negative emotions and stressful situations.

Check In With Yourself

Every now and then, reflect on how you’ve been doing, note any challenges you’ve had, any negative situations you’ve been in, and how you dealt with them. Think about what triggered you during these situations and whether you can avoid these in the future.

Join a Specialist Support Programme

Our range of support programmes can give you the tools and knowledge that you need to understand your behaviour, better manage your emotions, strengthen your relationships, and move on from your abusive behaviour for good. We can also support you with self-reflection and goal-setting. Click here to find out more about the support we offer, and the benefits from referring yourself to Freeva’s Jenkins Project.

Remember, this journey requires dedication and perseverance, but you’ve got this. We understand it can be hard, but seeking help is key to creating a more positive future for yourself. We can provide you with a judgment-free space to speak to someone about your feelings and experiences.

If you’re ready to use your strength to change, not control, contact our team today: 0116 254 0101

Looking for support? Call our helpline today.

View our programmes for those seeking change

Our change programmes are run through the Jenkins Project; a project managed by Freeva, designed help you step away from abusive behaviour.

Self Help to Change

Maintenance Programme

If you’ve completed our Second Step programme, we offer a monthly drop-in session that you can attend for ongoing support.

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Step Up Dads Programme

If you’ve already completed our Second Step programme, and are looking to work on your fathering or co-parenting skills, our Step Up Dads programme is for you.


1 on 1 Support

Whilst we offer a range of support programmes in group settings, some people may be better suited to 1-on-1 advice and/or maintenance sessions, depending on their circumstances.

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